Falling out of love started…either early this season or early last season (I forget which) when Tony started being an even bigger and less funny dick to Ziva than he usually has been.

And then we got seasons 1 and 2 on DVD. And something Tony says in one episode just…seriously, seriously bothered me.

When Ari held Kate hostage, she missed a chance to stab him with a scalpel because he grabbed her. There is only so much you can do with a scalpel when you have been grabbed and your opponent has a gun and could, as a trained assassin, probably manage to kill you or your friends before he succumbed to any scalpel wounds.

Afterward, Tony suggests that maybe, in the really short amount of time she was held hostage, developed Stockholm syndrome. The way he says this is so, so, SO full of really disgusting victim-blaming “you wanted it, didn’t you” tone that my jaw dropped.

And it’s been kind of hard to look at Tony sense then.