Tag: child abuse mention

opalbeifongs:

msmakorra:

when asami’s father dies and she becomes an orphan but she’s sad for 0.00000000001 seconds and then goes on a vacation 

No, bullshit. Shut up right now. I haven’t really been involved with controversy over the finale because I just want to enjoy it, but not this one. You guys don’t know what its fucking like to have parents like that. Thats one of reasons I love Asami so much, she went through something really similar to me, and I’m gonna defend her. I usually don’t talk about this on my blog because I don’t like to, but guess what? I testified against one of my parents in court for child abuse and assault of a minor with a deadly weapon. And they got punished for it, and I haven’t seen them in a long time. But I did talk to them once and went through the whole talk about our feelings thing. Sound familiar? Hiroshi tried to kill Asami, then they didn’t see each other for over 3 years. Do you even realise how that feels, to have your parent, the person who is supposed to love you unconditionally and care for you, literally try to kill you, try to end your life? Because I do. Asami does. Do you know how it feels to have a parent who is alive but you don’t talk to for years of your life because of how they hurt you? Because I do. Asami does. Do you realise how hard it is to have even a remotely normal conversation with your parent after what they did to you and after so many years apart? Because I do. Asami does. Do you have any idea how much a parent trying to kill you can fuck up that relationship for life? Because I do. Asami does. Asami is under no obligation to heavily mourn the man who tried to kill her. Being an orphan probably isn’t even that new to her, considering she’s seen her dad like twice in 3 years, its not like he’s been a significant part of her life. What do you even want her to do? Wear all black and stare at his photo and cry, why isn’t a vacation what she needs? To get away from the city where her dad tried to kill her, the same city where she watched him die. Why isn’t getting away a good thing for her? 

TLDR: Asami’s dad literally tried to fucking kill her, and she’s seen him like twice in the last few years, she is under no obligation to heavily mourn his death, and a vacation, getting away from the city where all that happened, is a valid way to grieve. 

Everyone, please reblog this, I don’t care if it means more people know about my story, I want everyone to know that it’s never okay how to tell a person how to grieve the loss of parent that tried to kill you. If the parent that did this to me died tomorrow, I can honestly say I would barely care, and if one of you told me I wasn’t grieving enough, I would punch you in the face.