Tag: aromanticism

edgebug:

“how can you be intimate with someone if you’re aromantic??”

sharing secrets, trusting them with your life, telling them about that stupid thing you did when you were 14 and haven’t told anyone else since, being there for them any time day or night, talking til three in the morning, letting yourself cry around them, sharing grief, sharing joy, getting excited about the things they’re excited about just because you love to see them so happy about something

beranyth:

bythegoddess:

why do people listen to aro/ace ‘criticism’ from people who have made it expressly clear they’re aro/acephobic

like maybe people who outright say they don’t believe it doesn’t exist or have any worth are…people who don’t have any ‘criticism’ of worth to say maybe…justtt maybe

thisssssssssssss

I’m so fucking tired of seeing the opinions of people who pathologize asexuality or aromanticism promoted, or those who say we’re “just straight people who want to be special snowflakes” or “sexually repressed airheads who are too pathetic to be ~liberated” or “gay/lesbian in denial with too much internalized homophobia to admit it” or “can’t get a date so make up an orientation” etc etc etc being treated like they’re the Word of God on us because they can find something to lash out about, or manage to wrap their bullshit up in enough buzzwords for people to swallow it

sometimes the criticism itself is legit but guess what, it’s so fucking easy to keep an ear to the ground for every possible way people from a marginalized group can fuck up and then SHOUT IT FROM THE ROOFTOPS and then get legitimacy for whatever hateful shit you spout the rest of the day

it’s especially heartbreaking when I see ace/aro people–especially kids, which I see a lot–dutifully reblogging it because they’re trying to be responsible and mindful, and inadvertantly give a pedestal to people who don’t care about them at all and want to perpetrate everything that’s harmed them

augustne:

friendly reminder

  • aros aren’t heartless, and have like no personality
  • love =/= romance
  • u can platonically love someone w/o wanting to become romantically involved with someone
  • aro people can get married
  • some aro can be romance repulsed
  • if u are aro but not ace, u aren’t shallow
  • if u are aro and ace u aren’t above aros who aren’t ace
  • aromantics are fucking important

thatonearomantic:

I get so concerned when romantic people stereotype aromantic people as or call aromantic people cold and emotionless
It’s like
Do you only feel romantic love
are you romantically attracted to your friends or do you just not care about them?? what about your family???
please do not tell me you are romantically attracted to your grandparents

aromanticawarenessweek:

Ok, so I’ve done it. I made a tumblr blog so that means it’s official, right? Let’s make aromantic spectrum awareness week a thing. The week I’ve seen suggested and clear of other things is November 9th through the 17th (Monday through Monday, so there’s a weekend in there I guess).

So let’s do this. Spread this around please! This needs to be a thing.

perksofbeingaro:

Reasons I am sick of asexuality and aromanticism being smushed together:

  1. Sexual attraction and romantic attraction are entirely different things
  2. You can be sexual but not romantic
  3. You can be romantic but not sexual
  4. Sexual attraction and romantic attraction are not the same thing
  5. Treating everything as an aroace problem ignores allosexual aromantics but also ignores alloromantic asexuals
  6. It often throws aromantics under the bus for not feeling love
  7. Allosexual aromantics are extremely under-representated
  8. Sexual attraction and romantic attraction are not the same thing
  9. It creates a lot of confusion around the differences between sexual and romantic attraction and how they can differ
  10. SEXUAL ATTRACTION AND ROMANTIC ATTRACTION ARE NOT THE SAME THING SO THE PROBLEMS ONE IDENTITY FACES CANNOT BE GENERALISED TO THE OTHER

thewitch-tm:

jeffersonshat:

hey guys so i know asexual awareness week is next week and as an asexual, that’s super important to me

but let’s not forget that aromantic awareness week is also next week, and that’s just as important as asexual awareness

please don’t forget about our aromantic friends! they deserve just as much love as the asexuals

nnnnooooo let’s not celebrate these two things together okay it’s harmful and hurtful for aromantic people

alloro ace people often throw aro ace people under the bus by explaining that asexuals can experience romantic love, don’t worry!!!

And putting the two together is alienating for allosexual aromantic people

aro people will only be overshadowed by ace people in this and I want nothing to do with it. give ace people their own week. aromantic asexuals can celebrate that part of their identity during it

let’s please please not put the two together aro people deserve our own separate recognition from asexual and people need to learn these two do not go hand in hand