aro pride – Kirkwall Was Totally Built On a Hellmouth

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Ok this post is probably going to be a mess of thoughts, but whatever. I have seen some things in the aaw tags saying that we don’t need asexuality or aromantic awareness weeks. People are saying that it shouldn’t be so important to us that everyone knows about asexuality and aromanticism (why is that word so awkward?). I don’t think you’re understanding the point of asexual and aromantic awareness. The point is not to educate allosexual alloromantic people about these things. That’s something we do, yes, but that’s not the reason. The point of asexual and aromantic awareness is to educate people who might be on the asexual are aromantic spectrum, but don’t know it. Because most of us on the spectrum have been there. Most of us remember feeling broken, trying out different sexual orientation labels to try and find one that fits. Wondering if everyone just pretends to be romantically or sexually attracted to people all the time. Or, for allosexual aromantic people, feeling like a heartless slut, because that’s what the world tells you that you are. The primary goal of asexual and aromantic awareness is to spread these words and definitions and stories around so that these people who are in the shoes we were once in can maybe see it and realize that they aren’t broken or heartless.