bigfatfeminist:

danyphantomzone:

big fat feminist: Basically:

hotelsongs:

If a novel is divided between Good Women and Bad Women, it is not a feminist novel.

I don’t care whether the Good Woman is a virtuous tower maiden and the Bad Woman has vagina dentata and knows how to use them or if the Good Woman is a sexy Wiccan part-time knight and the Bad…

So… a woman cannot be evil/a villain in a work of fiction?
How are you NOT saying that?
Or… women can’t be in a state of conflict in a work of fiction?

Yes. You must explain why your theory isn’t as absurd as it sounds.

Gladly.

The problem is not whether or not women are evil or in a state of conflict in a work of fiction. The problem is whether or not they are evil based on adhering or not adhering to a standard of womanhood, as opposed to committing evil acts that are evil by nature. Judging women as “good” or “bad” based on their adherence to a construction of femininity is not feminist. There is a difference there, and it is huge.

And again, pitting a female protagonist who is “good” because she adheres to a construction of femininity against a female villain who is “bad” because she doesn’t is not feminist. 

It’s not absurd. It seems you’re having trouble envisioning even a fictionalized world where women are not judged on “good” or “evil” based almost purely on the constructions of femininity within that fictionalized world — which is fair, because those books are not often written and when they are, they confuse the shit out of people (I’m looking at you, A Song of Ice and Fire). Are men judged as such based on their adherence to constructions of masculinity? Generally, no. 

Here is a simplified example based on Disney movies I loved as a child: Robin Hood believes in providing for the poor through an equal distribution of wealth. The Sheriff of Nottingham believes in property rights and serfdom. Robin Hood is the hero because the tenets of his world are that greed and unfair taxation are bad. The Sheriff of Nottingham is the villain because he is greedy and treats his people unfairly.

Conversely, take Snow White and the evil queen Maleficent. Snow White is “good” because she is beautiful and chaste and innocent; Maleficent is “evil” because she is vain, jealous, and arguably sexually active — if nothing else, she is dangerous because she is aging and moving further away from perfect femininity, and Snow White is young. They are pitted against one another because Snow White represents perfect femininity and Maleficent does not; moreover, Maleficent is evil because she wants to destroy that perfect femininity, because she is threatened by it. She hates Snow White because Snow White represents what she is not.

These are huge differences. Yes, one might be able to argue that vanity is objectively bad (I’m not saying I think that, but I can see the discussion going this way), but vanity is also traditionally gendered as a feminine flaw. Greed is not a gendered flaw. Robin Hood and the Sheriff are not enemies because they represent “good” and “bad” masculinity. Snow White and Maleficent are enemies because they represent “good” and “bad” femininity. This happens all the damn time. Fiction novels certainly CAN engage in this kind of boring stereotyping, but when they do they are sexist, and they are not feminist. Period.

This is a good argument, but Maleficent is in Sleeping Beauty, not Snow White.

prothy-the-prothean:

etonia:

byyourleave:

theatlantic:

The Invisible Borders That Define American Culture

One of the clearest regional differences in the U.S. can found by tracking the words people use to refer to soft drinks, which is in fact the map you saw at the top of this story. Pop or soda, or even Coke, these small linguistic differences are not as small as we might think. While “soda” commands the Northeast and West Coast (green) and “pop” is in between (black), “Coke” reigns in the south (turquoise). These small distinctions can often act as touchstones for larger cultural differences.

Read more. [Image: Samuel Arbesman]

Okay look.  I lived in the south the vast majority of my life (until about a year ago, in fact.).  That covers Mississippi, South Carolina and Maryland (which, to be fair, says “soda” anyway, according to this map, but I digress), with inroads into Georgia, Florida, and North Carolina.

The only time I ever referred to soda as Coke and the only time I ever heard anyone around me, friend, family, or stranger, refer to soda as Coke, was when they were ordering a damn Coke.  If you wanted to know what kinds of soda were available you said “What kinds of soda are available?” at which point the person offering you a drink would say something like “Well, I have Orange Crush, Sprite, and Coke” and you would say “I’ll have Sprite, please” or “I’ll have Coke, please.”  Never once in .30 years did I ever hear anyone say “What kinds of Coke do you have” or “I’ll have a coke” when what they meant was generic soda/pop/other fizzy drink.

EXACTLY. Ugh, I hate that stereotype. We call it soda.

I find this really weird because I grew up in the SouthWest, Utah specifically, and damn near everyone calls it soda or coke? O_o

While apparently not all of the South uses coke as the generic, the term is alive and well in my section of northern Alabama. Like, people will correct you if they only serve Pepsi, but “coke” is still all-purpose in some areas of the South.

Well, OP, you’re not her. If you were her, you would have no reason to feel shame for doing any of the things mentioned in the confession.

But since you aren’t her, you should feel shame for attaching shame to her work. That is the only shame that belongs here, OP.

(Also, she had nothing to do with the writing on either BSG or Mass Effect. Also, not everyone thinks those two things ended poorly. While I personally do not like how ME3 ended, I didn’t particularly have any beef with the way BSG ended.)

impressioniste:

commanderdudebro:

castiel-in-the-phone-box:

magesmagesmages:

ladyintegra:

surrealsadi:

aroihkin:

randomminer:

don’t forget anxiety!!

Everyone who knows me knows someone with lupus, fibro, and chronic fatigue. If you don’t know anyone else with an invisible illness, you know me.

My mother suffers Arthritis, Depression, and probably a few others. Asthma is an invisible illness, which I suffer. It may not be painful, but the coughing and shortness of breath can be terrifying to live with. I also likely have some form of Depression. My best friend has RSD(which is sorta like fibromyalgia, but not), and is Bi Polar.

My best friend has issues with back pain that no treatment or pain meds has helped her with. She’s been to several doctors and they have all told her that there is nothing wrong with her but they haven’t sat with her while she cried from all the pain she felt. She’s come close to being addicted to the codeine that they gave her so she stopped taking them, has had her nerves burnt and has gone through various physical therapy. So far nothing has helped her.

OYD and my other internet friends who suffer from fibro I love you! My mother suffered arthritis all her young adult life. My husband suffers from migraines, one of my best friends from chronic depression.

I love you all.

social anxiety disorder, adhd & athsma

arthritis.

———

Yup.

Endometriosis, PCOS, PMDD, arthritis, degenerative disc disease, obstructive sleep apnea, migraines, asthma, IBS, metabolic syndrome, high blood pressure, peptic ulcers and severe GERD, tendinitis, panic disorder, anxiety, and depression among them.

My heart goes out to anyone who’s ever heard the phrase, “But you don’t look sick!” And my ears are always open to anyone who needs to vent about it.

Type 1 diabetes, anxiety, Ménière’s, back and hip issues (if I wasn’t lucky enough to have access to a good chiropractor, I’d probably have had to have surgery by now).

I’m lucky in than no one has ever pulled the “At least you don’t have cancer” thing in regards to my diabetes, but if they ever did I would inform then that, actually, diabetes and its complications results in more deaths per year than the combined numbers for breast cancer and AIDs. And no, some complications you can’t prevent by taking care of yourself, because you can do everything right and still have your body turn against you. Control isn’t a magic wand, and insulin isn’t a cure. 

prothy-the-prothean:

theillusivewoman:

chief-williams:

Harry Dresden, UH BSG WHO IS YOUR MAIN PROTAGONIST CAN I SAY KARA, and Geralt of Rivia.

NOT SCREWED AT ALL, SURPRISINGLY ENOUGH.

Commander Shepard, Tamsin (my Jedi Knight), and Katniss Everdeen.

I GOT THIS.

John Crichton from Farscape, Commander Vimes from Discworld, and… um, my Sims from Sims 3?

Buffy, the Wife of Bath, and Commander Shepard. I’m good. And will probably never be bored during said apocalypse.

jeweledleah:

exactly (although with new ME3 save, its still possible to save and romance Kaidan). 

and you know what kills me though.

straight dude Shep gets 2 romances in ME1, 3 romances and 1 fling in ME2, and in ME3 at least 1 guaranteed to be alive romance (and one that is pretty much a default VS) and a fling.  plus all the imported romances can be rekindled.

gay dudeshep doesn’t get anything until ME3, but in ME3 – at least one romance is guaranteed to be alive in every game.

lesbian femshep gets 2 romance options in ME1, one fling in ME2 and 2 guaranteed to be alive romances and a fling in ME3, but lets face it – this is mostly for benefit of the male players who like to play female characters and think lesbians are hot, any hint of equality is pretty incidental

straight femshep gets 1 romance in ME1, 3 romances in ME2 and no guaranteed to be alive romances in ME3, and only ONE of her ME2 romances can be rekindled.  the other is killed off with barely any romance exclusive content and third one has been character assassinated and turned into a sleezebag cheater.

THIS is why I will NEVER praise EA and Bioware for their inclusiveness.  becasue its all smoke and mirrors.  it wasn’t done to be open minded, it was done becasue PR about no m/m relationships was getting to difficult to manage.  I will praise the individual writer who wrote Steve as a great character, I will praise Patrick Weeks who made sure that Steve didn’t get killed off by default.

but I will not praise Bioware or EA as a company. 

A lesbian femShep has one romance option in ME1 (unless one uses an edited file to romance Ashley). A bisexual femShep has two options in ME1.

Dear self,

If stuff you read about a movie makes you think you might not like it, it’s probably a pretty good idea not to watch it just because it’s on Hulu for free. Especially if it’s a horror movie.

Because those can be messed in ways that do not include crazy amounts of blood everywhere. If you are sitting there wondering if there are people who genuinely like this movie without questioning its several layers of messed up, it is time to stop the movie and find something feel-good to watch so you face doesn’t freeze in a “the hell am I watching this for” position.