b-mommy:

katiebour:

b-mommy:

snager:

b-mommy:

ffprincess:

b-mommy:

ffprincess:

It’s not a nightmare. it’s a dream.

How does it feel to be unbelievably, disgustingly offensive?

how does it feel to be unbelievably fault-finding? it’s a joke. ok? nobody said being raped is delightful. actually this confession has nothing to do with what kind of a man Alistair is. so it’s hard for me to imagine him being scary.

It’s grim work, to be perfectly honest, because it exposes us to the type of bullshit that you’re perpetrating. It gets quite sickening after a while.

It’s a joke, is it? Oh, so we shouldn’t be concerned because it’s “just a joke.” Just a harmless joke that you’re making about sexual assault! No big deal! It’s not like sexual assault victims have to deal with that type of thing every day in the court system, in the media, at work, at school: people making their experience into one big joke. It’s not like the person who submitted this confession sent us a message informing us of how triggering and offensive they found your cute little joke.

We imagine that what kind of man you perceive Alistair to be matters very little to the person who submitted this.

and people say the homestuck fandom is annoying. 

Gonna have to disagree with the implication that we are anywhere near that level.

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I’m with b-mommy on this.  OP had a bad dream and made a confession that reads like a dramatic plea for sympathy… for a bad dream.

Am I the only person who thinks this is just a tad…ridiculous?

I mean, if we want to talk rape issues in DA, let’s talk about Alrik and Ella, or Anders/Templars or Mages/Templars or Shianni/Arl’s son or whatever.

But… a bad dream involving Alistair?  The King of Cheese who is so bumblingly sweet and has never licked a lamppost in his life?  

If you have a bad dream, fine, but to run away screaming that you’ve been traumatized because of it is a little unusual.  And then to take a beloved character from a series that we all adore and blame him for something OP’s mind cooked up (without any help from Al himself, I might add) is…

yeah.

That’s not at ALL what we’re saying. Your ask box appears to be closed, so we’ll let you know here that the confessor revealed themselves to us in confidence. We would really appreciate it if you would consider the possibility that this person is following your blog and will see you belittling their experience on their dash.

“Bad dreams” about being sexually assaulted are traumatizing, whether it happens to seem “out of character” for the fictional character that some people adore (personally, I have no strong feelings about him, though I feel less inclined to favor him after seeing the way some of his fans conduct themselves), and it HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH SECRETLY FANTASIZING ABOUT THE PERSON WHO DOES THE SEXUAL ASSAULTING. Saying so is incredibly insensitive, and is, in effect, victim blaming.